Oops! Seriously I only saw the bourbon and not the question about Leo XD!!!!
She's doing well. She's adjusting to life in CA, but I think she's happy here (minus the unseasonable summer we had).
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Oops! Seriously I only saw the bourbon and not the question about Leo XD!!!!
She's doing well. She's adjusting to life in CA, but I think she's happy here (minus the unseasonable summer we had).
djmbbandie
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Good. I was starting to get worried....
*serves more bourbon
*serves Dew
California by the ocean is a great place. very stable temperatures that are not hot, which I like (My dad was over for about 10 months in Oxnard).
*serves more bourbon
*serves Dew
California by the ocean is a great place. very stable temperatures that are not hot, which I like (My dad was over for about 10 months in Oxnard).
I made it home to my own bed at 1am. Worked a full day completely hungover. Not going to do that again....Last time I did that, I ended up sleeping on a random couch in the office somewhereWas great!
I am glad I rarely do that amount of drinking....
In the Netherlands!
The fact that they're not allowed to ask doesn't mean it doesn't get asked. As to whether it should be against the law i'm a bit torn. On the one hand it's really private and you're not treating men and women equally. On the other hand if i had a business and i hired some woman that instantly gets pregnant and a year after the first again i wouldn't be happy. You're paying someone to do a job, but you're not getting the work done that you're paying for. So yeah, i understand the business point of view as well.
There's also talk about extending the leave for men after having a baby (by the woman, not the man
). Right now we probably have one of the worst arrangements for men if i'm not mistaken. I think a man has 2 days leave. You could argue that if there was less of a difference between men and women that they would be treated more equally, but i think it would just lead to a different kind of discrimination. Employers would just start hiring older men and women to avoid the problem entirely.Persons plural? Were you so drunk you saw her double or even triple?
It's an unlawful question and sneaky. If you remind them it's unlawful you can forget about getting the job. Now. I always knew I never wanted children but it's an unfair and unlawful question. It's no different than asking "do you think you are going to do some dangerous sports during your summer holiday in which you might break a leg or two, because we don't want that". It's nobody's business.
And I agree that it should be more equal with men and women. Of course in the first months it's probably for practical reasons the women gets more leave, but other it should be shared. This is not the 50s where the woman raises the child and the man is the guy you see in the evening. Men want to be involved raising their children. Why is it men do not get time to do that and women are automatically seen as the primary choice to leave, work less, raise the children?
At the same time, a number of years ago we had a vacancy that every time we hired someone, the girl got pregnant. Usually not entirely planned, but still. Lots of hassle getting new colleagues trained again, etc, I get that. One girl was even fired by HR for getting pregnant. Yes, illegal, but they made sure it was legal.
But that doesn't mean you should ask "do you plan on getting pregnant within the next 5 years". Or the sneaky version "where do you see yourself in 5 years" and when you tell a cheery version of where you see yourself professionaly, they meekly ask "yes, and privately?"
And I agree that it should be more equal with men and women. Of course in the first months it's probably for practical reasons the women gets more leave, but other it should be shared. This is not the 50s where the woman raises the child and the man is the guy you see in the evening. Men want to be involved raising their children. Why is it men do not get time to do that and women are automatically seen as the primary choice to leave, work less, raise the children?
At the same time, a number of years ago we had a vacancy that every time we hired someone, the girl got pregnant. Usually not entirely planned, but still. Lots of hassle getting new colleagues trained again, etc, I get that. One girl was even fired by HR for getting pregnant. Yes, illegal, but they made sure it was legal.
But that doesn't mean you should ask "do you plan on getting pregnant within the next 5 years". Or the sneaky version "where do you see yourself in 5 years" and when you tell a cheery version of where you see yourself professionaly, they meekly ask "yes, and privately?"
I notice a penguin invasion. This is good news! Though I won't be checking if everyone's feet are happy. (I should check my feet actually...)
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Only 90%? We're better than that people! Take it up a notch!
On an unrelated note: Work is being a mess (as usual). Difference is now the project manager also had enough of it. Some people haven't done what they're supposed to do and we're not doing anything until that is done. Somehow i envision myself sitting there all of next week doing nothing. Also one of the developers is on holiday and if nothing gets developed, there's nothing to test for me. Perhaps i should bring a book.
But those are worries for next week. Now the weekend is here so i'm gonna try and enjoy that.
Also today is the first day since my injury (about 10 days ago) that i could (carefully) walk without limping. And with walking normally the constant cramp i had in my calf (from getting up in the morning until i went to bed) is also disappearing. So i'm still quite a bit away from actually playing sports again, but for now i'm just happy i can walk a bit and not being in almost constant pain.
On an unrelated note: Work is being a mess (as usual). Difference is now the project manager also had enough of it. Some people haven't done what they're supposed to do and we're not doing anything until that is done. Somehow i envision myself sitting there all of next week doing nothing. Also one of the developers is on holiday and if nothing gets developed, there's nothing to test for me. Perhaps i should bring a book.
But those are worries for next week. Now the weekend is here so i'm gonna try and enjoy that.
Also today is the first day since my injury (about 10 days ago) that i could (carefully) walk without limping. And with walking normally the constant cramp i had in my calf (from getting up in the morning until i went to bed) is also disappearing. So i'm still quite a bit away from actually playing sports again, but for now i'm just happy i can walk a bit and not being in almost constant pain.
djmbbandie
Well-known member
*waves at Laarz
*serves celebratory drinks
*serves celebratory Dew
*serves celebratory drinks
*serves celebratory Dew
I was going to write a long post, about my perspectives, and feelings after a seriously dramatic change over the past two months, but I just "Ctrl+A", then "Del"'d it. I don't want to write a long, personal story. It's nothing like a death or a sickness; it's merely a change of perspective on what I enjoy, and the extreme pain of having very strong feelings for my housemate (completely one-sided.)
I'm simply posting now to let you guys know that my entire life has been thrown upside down. I no longer enjoy what I used to do. I no longer enjoy getting home after work, and unwinding quietly the way I used to.
I no longer enjoy watching videos, browsing forums, drinking alcohol at all, relaxing to music, or gaming.
There is a long story involved in the change, but I don't want to go into it. It's very long, and gives very strong, mixed, positive and negative emotions. And a lot of confusion and events that I cannot comprehend.
I'm happy, but I'm hurting so much.
I haven't really posted here lately, because I no longer get enjoyment out of it. The videos I used to relax and unwind to no longer entertain me. Same with any type of gaming.
I still do them, but more out of habit, as I don't know how to fill that time. I don't have anything I want to do to unwind after work, so slowly, they are becoming less common, and I'm filling the time with other things, to try to get some balance.
In addition, where I'd normally sleep in on weekends feeling tired (at my old place,) I'm now feeling wide awake early mornings, and wanting to wake up for the day.
So much has changed, but it's a complete mix-bag. It's like the entire contents of my mind has been lifted up, thrown randomly and then dropped back down. Everything is still there, but priorities, fears, loves, desires; Everything; has been rearranged, and I am sorting through it all to find what is now important to me, where it is, and how much. Etc: Certain 'fears' are still there, but have been thrown into a less intrusive spot, and are less of a challenge, while enjoyment/unwinding has been re-arranged and replaced with other desires (many yet to be discovered.)
One is food: I've never really cared about food, but all of a sudden, I'm trying to make french toast in the morning. Why? I've never cared in the past, but it's suddenly in a more valuable spot.
Basically, I'm saying thanks to all the community, mods, people, hosts - everyone- that has made this forum so friendly, enjoyable and welcoming over the years.
But for me, I think I'm likely to be disappearing from the forums pretty soon.
Thank you all, and best wishes.
I'm simply posting now to let you guys know that my entire life has been thrown upside down. I no longer enjoy what I used to do. I no longer enjoy getting home after work, and unwinding quietly the way I used to.
I no longer enjoy watching videos, browsing forums, drinking alcohol at all, relaxing to music, or gaming.
There is a long story involved in the change, but I don't want to go into it. It's very long, and gives very strong, mixed, positive and negative emotions. And a lot of confusion and events that I cannot comprehend.
I'm happy, but I'm hurting so much.
I haven't really posted here lately, because I no longer get enjoyment out of it. The videos I used to relax and unwind to no longer entertain me. Same with any type of gaming.
I still do them, but more out of habit, as I don't know how to fill that time. I don't have anything I want to do to unwind after work, so slowly, they are becoming less common, and I'm filling the time with other things, to try to get some balance.
In addition, where I'd normally sleep in on weekends feeling tired (at my old place,) I'm now feeling wide awake early mornings, and wanting to wake up for the day.
So much has changed, but it's a complete mix-bag. It's like the entire contents of my mind has been lifted up, thrown randomly and then dropped back down. Everything is still there, but priorities, fears, loves, desires; Everything; has been rearranged, and I am sorting through it all to find what is now important to me, where it is, and how much. Etc: Certain 'fears' are still there, but have been thrown into a less intrusive spot, and are less of a challenge, while enjoyment/unwinding has been re-arranged and replaced with other desires (many yet to be discovered.)
One is food: I've never really cared about food, but all of a sudden, I'm trying to make french toast in the morning. Why? I've never cared in the past, but it's suddenly in a more valuable spot.
Basically, I'm saying thanks to all the community, mods, people, hosts - everyone- that has made this forum so friendly, enjoyable and welcoming over the years.
But for me, I think I'm likely to be disappearing from the forums pretty soon.
Thank you all, and best wishes.
Kestegs
Active member
I'm not sure if that's good or bad, and it seems like you don't either. You will certainly be missed if you aren't around though!
Mmmmmhmmmm!
