OT: Days of our Lives aka the Beacon's Billboard

Damn it. Someone at my work thinks I have something going on with one of the girls working there, which resulted in tears and sadness when I told my girlfriend about it. As you all know, I want to always tell the truth, because I think that is the best in every case. I have absolutely nothing going on with anyone at work. Sure I talk to the other employees, but that should be quite normal. The things is, that noone likes to hear that. To hear that other people think your loved one is having an affair. Especially when we don't see each other on a daily basis, it can be hard to completely trust each other. I trust her, but I would probably also be saddened to hear stories like that, and doubt would undoubtedly spring in my mind, unless we discussed it. Nothing is wrong though, she's gonna visit me tomorrow evening and I'm looking forward to it. It's been like 4 days since I saw her last, and it already feels like a month. I miss her so much...

What can you do to avoid those things? How do you avoid such rumors? I don't flirt or anything, couldn't dream of it, so what do I do? Should I be more ... what is the word ... rejecting?? And how do you do that?
 
Well Rizzo, But being in a situation where you can't go and see your girl every day, you need to use a certain amount of discretion. I think honesty is the cornerstone to any relationship, but I think you may have been better off not telling her. I think I'd have confronted the rumor in at work, and then moved on.

As much as I hate hiding things from my girl, sometimes it's better that way. I don't tell her when people hit on me in clubs. Sometimes I don't tell her when I get injured playing ultimate, because I don't want her to worry too much. Or last year when I spent a lot of time with my best friend (who is female), I wouldn't always mention it in detail because I didn't want her doubting, or getting jealous.

It's very much a difficult situation to be in. The things we do for love... :xtongue:

As far as the work situation... I think I'd try to make it clear to the rumor mongers that you're very dedicated to your girl. Maybe talk about her a little more at work, about how special she is to you, and how you adore her etc. Basically all the stuff you wrote in this thread, things like this:

Rizzo said:
It's been like 4 days since I saw her last, and it already feels like a month. I miss her so much...
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Dropping little things like that into the conversation might help them realise that you're not being unfaithful, and that you're not having an affair.

I wouldn't recommend rejecting people at work, or becoming reclusive. You have to work there, and some of your co-workers might be insulted if you suddenly stopped talking to them, or became less social. It might end up making work rather unpleasant...or at least more so then usual :xtongue:

Hope this helps, from one long distance guy to another. :thumbsup:
 
Spork those noobs!!! :xdrunk: :thumbsup:


or you could take kaysaars advice, which while less fun would lead to you keeping the job and staying out of jail.
 
Hey all,

@Rizzo - Kaysaar gives very good advice. DON"T TELL HER!! There are times in any relationship where biting your tounge is the best course of action. It doesn't mean you're lying to her. If it really is just rumour mongering then I'd just ignore it and get on with my job, I definately wouldn't tell the Gf about it! As Kaysaar said, it's a tough situation.

What can you do to avoid those things? How do you avoid such rumors? I don't flirt or anything, couldn't dream of it, so what do I do? Should I be more ... what is the word ... rejecting?? And how do you do that?
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Wherever people work together you will always get this sort of carry on, it's human nature. Make sure that (most) people see the professional side of you at work. Work is just that, work, keep it separated from your personal life. For example, I have a couple of good friends at work with whom I talk about my private life to, I know I can trust them. Most of my peers, and all of my subordinates I keep on a strictly professional level - i.e volunteer no information about myself outside of work, it's just too easy for them to open their mouths and start rumours.

-Grogs
 
@Corax - You've got mail

@everyone else - hope you day is going better than mine :xmad:

Note: My little fella is at lvl95. I'm getting a little over 1 mil per run (better than I thought I'd get). It'll take 211 runs to get to the next lvl or 26hrs of play time. I'll be there by this weekend and give you the next break down!

Did some testing on equip last night.

1) Cresent Moon is not as effective as ~95% CB, it's quicker (much) for the 1st half of Baals life, the second half takes much longer - overall speed, CB is better.

2) Tried fleshripper out, 25% CB, %DS(meaningless), 20% Slow, 50% OW, works well, lowers the total CB to 85%, but the 20% slow coupled with Arachnids Mesh and Decrip makes Baal sit there and do nothing.

-Grogs
 
thanks grogs :thumbsup:
sick of MF'ing. have mf'ed my sorc from 91 to almost 93 on p1 meph and baal.

whats wrong with your day grogs?

@Kaysaar: hows the study going?
 
corax said:
whats wrong with your day grogs?
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Problems at work. I've attempted to utilize some subcontract labour (not working out as I'd hoped) to help out over the Dec/ Jan period (our busiest time of year). I need to pick up the hours worked (double it) in order to make budget for the next 2 months.

The problem is that there is only one of me and 2 formen, the short story is there's not enough chiefs, it makes my life hell. I'm on job sites at 6am sorting tradesmen out, visiting clients and the like, then not getting home till 6pm ish.

Now that in itself isn't too much of an issue, it's the fact that I've still got quotes and admin work coming out of my ears. Add these 2 together and I'm pretty busy. I've got about 4000 hours worth of work to quote by the 13th Dec (major new client) and the job hasn't been measured yet! I've had another client on my case for the last week in regard to 3 quotes I owe them, and to top it off I told a retirement village I'd have a price to them by last Friday.

I'll be glad when the 'silly' season is over and things can go back to normailty.

The SPF doesn't help either, I always find a way to read it when I should be working!

-Grogs
 
corax said:
@Kaysaar: hows the study going?
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I've almost started! :thumbsup:

Grogs - That's rough... I've pulled twelve hours days before, and I hated it. you've got my sympathies. I remember hating this season sooo much when I worked in retail. Stupid sharpening ice skates...
 
Kaysaar said:
I've almost started! :thumbsup:

Grogs - That's rough... I've pulled twelve hours days before, and I hated it. you've got my sympathies. I remember hating this season sooo much when I worked in retail. Stupid sharpening ice skates...
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lol. stab them. stab them all :xeek: im going to start stabbing if i dont find my stormlash

@ronin: youve got a PM
 
For God's sake, someone give him a Stormlash :xgift:

Meph is stingy as buggery, Baal is worse, and those 2 are superseded by everyone else in the game!
 
i just found a doombringer and a 5 sock superior zerker axe( why wasnt it three:rant: ) still no stormlash though. ive thrown pindle into the mix too

and im about to try and see how easy it is to run diablo


the stabbing will increase until my stormlash is found. then to use a simpsons quote
"I'LL MACE YOU GOOD!!!!" :xeek:
 
Hey you guys, this isn't the item find thread :D

Kaysaar and Grogs: You both have very valid arguments, and I think my problem might be that I'm not good enought to separate my personal life with my professional. I'm gonna work with that starting from today. This evening I'm gonna see my gf again, and I hope it'll get along alright. I won't talk more about this with her, basically because there's nothing to talk about. I do hope she doesn't bring it up though, since it hurts when she does.

Have a nice day all!
 
I'll jump in here, since my thought relates to Rizzo's.

First, the situation: I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months, and I love her to death. I would marry her if I could make it work out. Unfortunately, I'm a sophomore in college and she's a senior in HS (that's not the problem, hold your horses boys).

Being in college, I have certain opportunities, once of which is the enjoyment of consumption of alcohol (al beit illegally, as I am not 21 yet...). However, my lady, from what I can gather hates booze in all forms (even the smell of it), and refuses to touch the stuff (no, I have not and never will offer her any unless she specifically asks for it).

On the other hand, I like a beer now and then, and I like being a little tipsy a little less frequently than "now and then."

She doesn't about any of this. I feel like I am lying to her by not telling her, but I fear a backlash if I reveal this to her. I love her and she loves me, and it would be nothing we couldn't fix in time, but I don't want to go through another period of time like that.

What do you think about this?

crg
 
You have to be able to be yourself with her, otherwise the relationship will not last forever. If she loves you, she must also accept that you like a beer once in a while. I understand it if you're partying hard every weekend getting drunk from friday to sunday. That's not fun for her, and she could feel left out. But if it's just normal drinking habits, where you like a beer for dinner, or like to go out with the buddies on a friday, then she must accept this. At least, this is my opinion. To be able to respect and accept both sides of you is paramount in a relationship.
 
@Crazy Runner Guy
It's better to tell her than that she'll find it out some day by herself, don't you think?
As to her not liking alcohol in any form, well, not to sound harsh or anything but that's her problem. I have these periods of time that i like to have a drink now or then, but my periods of not drinking any alcohol, because i can't stand the taste or smell anymore for some reason, are longer by far. My boyfriend, however, does like to have a drink in the evening. And though i don't like the fact that he does that (for several reasons, one of them being kissing him when he tastes of beer, but that's just a minor one), i'm not gonna tell him to quit and i'm not gonna love him any less. It's his choice, not mine, you know?
So, to get back to the beginning: tell your girl that you like to have a beer now and then, it shouldn't be a problem. Also, ask her why exactly she doesn't like you drinking, maybe it has something to do with something in her past, you never know...
 
Morning all,

@grogs - I agree on the vindicator vs hammerdin, the minions would be tough tougher to take out with the vindicator but when loaded with CB, a crescent moon, a lvl 30 fanat aura, and a HF merc with a reapers, vindicators own pretty quickly. Ill make one and try it out although I think the hammerdin will win out in time. Perhpas he could make up for it on baal. If you dont mind my asking can you list some of the better finds you have gotten while trying to lvl up, as well as the amount of MF you have on? Im curious as to how well running baal will pay off in the long run.

@corax - I dont mind about the giveaway M8, they are your items now, dispose of them as you see fit.

@Rizzo - Kaysaar and grogs are right about this one. At work I try to offer very little information about myself except to a few people. I also dont really have any female friends, and I dont believe in trying to foster any relationships with a female because of the issues that may arise from it. I dont really want to keep anything from my wife but if some crud like that happened at work its better to sort that thing out at work. I dont think it matters too much if youve got her interests in mind here.

@crg - I think in this case you could go either way. Not telling her wouldnt be much of a deal, if shes at HS and sometimes you have a beer its not like your keeping all that much from her. If you would like to tell her though, I dont think it could hurt things either. Shes got to be able to understand that your going to drink sometimes. Two of my closest friends are ex-alcoholics and they understand when I drink at gatherings, so I think shell be able to understand that you have a beer now and again. Sidhe might has some good thoughts, find out why she hates it so much and it might be able to give you a clue as to whether or not you should tell her. Rizzo is right, it is definately important to a relationship to know all sides of each other, so she will have to come to grips with it eventually.

@oapwm - let me know if you want to mp, hopefully we could do it in SP with that new guide out. Not sure if you read it but it tells you how to set up IP MP games in SP. Hope your doing well.

Take it easy all, Ill see you during the day. Hope your doing well, its crunch time overhere as I have deadlines to meet before Christmas. :xgrin:

-rD
 
Crg - I think this is something that you should tell her. My girl was the same way, she never liked the taste, nor smell of alcohol. When she went into school, she vowed never to drink. She was also very happy that I had pretty much decided the same thing. I think that because she goes to a huge party school, everyone she knows who drinks get hammered every time they drink. I think she grouped the two together.

She held her resolve for the better part of two years. I lasted two months before trying stuff. I told her about drinks I tried, stuff I liked, stuff I didn't. I also mentioned stuff I thought she'd like. She's tried very light things thus far. I think when she saw that I can drink socially without getting sloshed, she's realised that it's not all that bad.

I'd try and show her that alcohol isn't all bad.
 
wow the forums are weird...

Anyways, my girl and me have about the same taste in alcohol. We both like drinks best, and dislike beer. I can drink beer, but I don't think it tastes great. We even share a favourite drink: piña colada :)
 
Rizzo said:
wow the forums are weird...

Anyways, my girl and me have about the same taste in alcohol. We both like drinks best, and dislike beer. I can drink beer, but I don't think it tastes great. We even share a favourite drink: piña colada :)
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Yeah, the forums are being wierd. It hasn't shown that anyone has posted after Rizzo's post (#735), but 5 people have. Wierd.

My girl and I are the same. Neither of us like beer, and prefer mixed drinks. I'm a big rum and coke, or bailey's and milk fan. :drink:
 
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