ok, i play a bladeasin, and i have seen a LOT of wrong info being flown around. not saying im the best at them, but im just saying what i know.
BF, a nice one point wonder, has no AR boost as we all know. i HIGHLY reccomend a MAX dragon tail or talon (whichever the kick one is lol) because you will be sporting nearely 100% crushing blow for your blade fury, and that CB will work even better with the kicks.
as far as the kicks being a "finishing move" forget all that stuff, its easily one of the best mele attacks there is. i know many a kickasin who do 18k dmg PER KICK with 5 kicks in maby 3 secconds.
but if your using a claw class weapon, and your primary attack is fury, then maxing CM will help you, but i would reccomend getting ignore targets defence on the weapon instead. that makes you not nead AR for all but super uniques/bosses. as far as your weapon goes, yeah, whoever told you to not take a 2 hander is completely right. i think its 50% dmg on a 2 hander Vs 3/4th on a 1 hander.
so why take both fury and kicks? well, heres why. my kickasin used kicks as main killing skill until she went into the CS, IM HURTS when your doing over 10k per attack (5 hits per attack) so the blades work wonders there. also, i really cant describe the value of a ranged attack enough. having just that one lil darn point into BF has saved me soo many times. IE im amped and listed is storming through my shadow/merc...
my setup is this.
2 jade talons.
rattle cage
guillaumes face
goblin toes (eventually elite them for more dmg per kick if you take kicks)
crafted CB gloves
on a side note. when i first started that assasin she was a pure BF sin. onle when she started NM did i start to sink points into her kicks. the CB alone on the blades, and the ITD on my claw, made her one of the fastest killing machines everyware. when she would lvl in public games i had many a person say things to the effect of "wow, that assasin kicks ***" and that she does, with only her little blades.