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Goldtru said:
I know. I've read articles about dealing with a young person who refuses to grow up and fend for themselves. It always come down to "if your adult child expects you to make dinner for him, then don't and make him live with the consequences." But what about if the consequences are homelessness? Do you do that? And yet this adult child won't even bathe without being told to do so. I'm sure there is profound mental illness going on and my BF is trying to find someone to at least diagnose him but we all know that treating mental illness takes time, and this kid has to be out of his grandparents house by the 30th and no one else will take him in. I certainly won't. I can't. I could lose my own son if I did that.

*blows raspberry at Pyro to lighten the mood, then throws a pie at Cyrax just because it needed doing*
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Yeah, pretty much. But if there is a mental block there then that might not work, so hopefully you can figure that out. Seems like it would have been apparent as he was growing up though.
Noodle said:
I don't want to brag, but one time I ate an ant farm.
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Now what am I supposed to do for food?
 
Cyrax said:
Yay, no more pony's! Uhm, i mean sorry to see you leave Dry. ;) Hope you find what you're looking for in life. Although i do also hope that part of that is posting here.

Some terrible news at work. I mentioned the person earlier on being operated and such. Up until now despite everything he felt (relatively) good. Now they gave him the news that the cancer spread out and there's nothing they can do anymore. His life expectancy is estimated at about 6 months. :(

And because i don't wanna leave on something like this (and because i really like cats) here's some cats that don't care about your personal space.
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Very sad news. Hopefully he can keep his spirits high and enjoy every moment he can with those important to him. :(

Goldtru said:
Dry, sounds like you are at one of those cusps that life occasionally throws at us where you know that your life is going to change but you don't yet know how.

I certainly know what you mean. Last year, this forum and hamachi were my life line. I was so lonely and isolated, and this place gave me companionship and support and a lot of clarity. Now I have a wonderful future husband, a good job, a thriving child, and suddenly I realize that it has been days since I posted here or even longer since I hung out on hamachi. I miss everyone very much and I wish I could spend the time online that I did, but at the same time I was online so much because I was so miserable. I always knew that an online life couldn't substitute for relationships in the real world, and that the online life wasn't enough. So I get what you are saying.

I hope you'll still come back and let us know what happens. Fingers are crossed for you!

My BF's son is someone who only lives online. 21 years old, and he's in danger of becoming homeless because of his refusal to get a job or do anything at all on his own behalf. I can't take the kid in because I have my own son to care for and my BF can't support him, his mother threw him out, and his grandparents took him in but have said he has to be out by the end of October. That sucks. Tried to get him into the Air Force and they said no thank you. The only viable route left is therapy which is a long, slow process, and the kid is going to be homeless in a few weeks.

I cannot understand someone who is faced with homelessness and STILL won't bestir themselves.
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It's not that the forums were an escape, or that my personal life was negative/sad. I was comfortable with life, but simply enjoyed spamming and gaming more than I do now. I've been dropping in and out of D2 for a long time now (years.) I just haven't played D2 in so long, and have even been spamming significantly less, and with this change, it's just a change for things that aren't gaming/videos, and more holidays.
I'll try to post updates on the 'housemate' thing, but just won't be actively spamming to 100k.

That's sad as well about the 21-yr-old. It's a shame that something so dramatic still doesn't get the message through that he has to take some responsibility.

Pyrotechnician said:
There is way too much seriousness in this thread right now.

Dry, best of luck to you, I hope you find out what is going on in your life soon.

Gold, you need to make time for your favorite accountant, that is not optional. :p
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Thanks. :)
 
Warning rant incoming:
Things at work are going great again. Not. People trying to make me do their work once again (and succeeding at it). Project manager was all like "I'm gonna be strict and make them do their work.". So i was happy to finally be backed up by the manager. Ofc they made a mess of things. If they even did the work that is.

So Monday collegue was like "Hey Cyrax you have time don't you? I have a nice job for you.". Me (thinking i'd be backed up by the manager): "No thanks, that's not my job.". Yesterday, just before going home the project manager appears at my desk. Ohoh. I think i know what's coming. Project manager: "Cyrax, you have time don't you? Could you do this as X doesn't have the time to do it.". Me: "I thought you were gonna be strict about this?". Him: "Uhm, yeah i am. This'll just be a one time thing. Once the administration is back as it should be they really will have to do it themselves.". Me (with much sarcasm): "One time thing. Right.".

So this morning when i got to work i have an email from the collegue that should've done the job. That said that the project manager asked me to do this and that she hoped i would do this. She hoped. Like i have a choice if she talks my manager into making me do this.

All in all that took me just about the entire morning to do. And then not even the entire job is done. Some things were such a mess i couldn't make heads or tails of it. So i compiled a long email with what i've done and what mess they can figure out themselves.

Ok with that out of the way some more uplifting news. The collegue with the bad prognoses apparently talked to his oncologist and all of a sudden his perspective got a whole lot better. Apparently his condition is stable and that could remain so for years. Very weird such a shift in just a few days, but at least it's moving from bad to less bad instead of the other way around.

And some personal succes. Yesterday i finished GoW Ultimate Edition on casual difficulty (the easiest one). Shame i don't know anyone else who has this console/game as it would be fun to play with a friend. Still i had fun playing. I'll definately try this on a higher difficulty, although i'm not sure if that'll be right away. Could be i give Destiny a try first.
 
That's good about the person with cancer, glad there's some hope at least! And your work situation is very annoying indeed.
My son plays destiny and loves it. I've been thinking about playing it myself, although I'm typically terrible at the fps genre.

How much more school do you have left, Pharphis? Seems like you've been going forever.
 
You should play it then. We can be terrible together! ;) Honestly i don't know how i do compared to other players. Probably not too great either since most of my experience lies with other genres (mostly RPG).

Why do you think he's bored with it? That's because he has been going forever. And phar you can better walk out of it. That's less painful then dropping out.
 
I'm halfway through my MSc so I've been in post-secondary education for 5 years total. Not a huge amount, but I am sick of it. If I could take my TAing position for just 1/3rd of the pay to work full-time I would in a heart-beat lol.

Lately I've just been playing H1Z1 (battle royale mode is fun and would be even better if my comp wasn't garbage) and Rivals of Aether and a tiny bit of Dino Run (great old game that is being revamped a bit - I suggest trying it out to kill a few hours :p)
 
don't want to necro the beliefs thread I started so I will post this here since it is tangentially related to religion but not necessarily the topic in general.


Another great video by theramintrees regarding how easy it is for us to be manipulated. I'm only halfway through the video at this point but there are some key points I want to emphasize which are typically not really thought about by people:

1) We're all much too willing to throw terms like "stupid" around just as a label for people who have different beliefs and especially for victims of indoctrination or con-artistry (Scientology and psychics are some less controversial examples I can think of). We can ALL be manipulated, and it doesn't mean we're gullible or stupid when it happens.
2) Around the 15 min mark, he mentions the exact technique that Scientologist recruitment utilizes (in my experience and probably on purpose on his end). Fairly frightening in my opinion

pre-edit: heh it's exactly scientology, go figure. I totally called it at the first mention of space beings preventing people from reaching their full potential
edit 2: more religion than I expected. Still, it parallels perfectly in other aspects of life and I most often see these issues with "big pharma" conspiracy theorists
 
Cyrax said:
Warning rant incoming:
Things at work are going great again. Not. People trying to make me do their work once again (and succeeding at it). Project manager was all like "I'm gonna be strict and make them do their work.". So i was happy to finally be backed up by the manager. Ofc they made a mess of things. If they even did the work that is.

So Monday collegue was like "Hey Cyrax you have time don't you? I have a nice job for you.". Me (thinking i'd be backed up by the manager): "No thanks, that's not my job.". Yesterday, just before going home the project manager appears at my desk. Ohoh. I think i know what's coming. Project manager: "Cyrax, you have time don't you? Could you do this as X doesn't have the time to do it.". Me: "I thought you were gonna be strict about this?". Him: "Uhm, yeah i am. This'll just be a one time thing. Once the administration is back as it should be they really will have to do it themselves.". Me (with much sarcasm): "One time thing. Right.".

So this morning when i got to work i have an email from the collegue that should've done the job. That said that the project manager asked me to do this and that she hoped i would do this. She hoped. Like i have a choice if she talks my manager into making me do this.

All in all that took me just about the entire morning to do. And then not even the entire job is done. Some things were such a mess i couldn't make heads or tails of it. So i compiled a long email with what i've done and what mess they can figure out themselves.

Ok with that out of the way some more uplifting news. The collegue with the bad prognoses apparently talked to his oncologist and all of a sudden his perspective got a whole lot better. Apparently his condition is stable and that could remain so for years. Very weird such a shift in just a few days, but at least it's moving from bad to less bad instead of the other way around.

And some personal succes. Yesterday i finished GoW Ultimate Edition on casual difficulty (the easiest one). Shame i don't know anyone else who has this console/game as it would be fun to play with a friend. Still i had fun playing. I'll definately try this on a higher difficulty, although i'm not sure if that'll be right away. Could be i give Destiny a try first.
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So people decided they didn't want to do work anymore, so you get to do work! Sounds normal.

I beat GoW when it originally came out ages ago, I think I ended up completing Hardcore mode and the first act in insane, then moved on to a different game. I would play with you if I felt like dropping 300+ on an xbox one.
 
pharphis said:
don't want to necro the beliefs thread I started
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So why are you? ;)

pharphis said:
We're all much too willing to throw terms like "stupid" around
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Actually i think we're not using the term nearly enough. And that goes for both religious and non-religious ones.

Pyrotechnician said:
So people decided they didn't want to do work anymore, so you get to do work! Sounds normal.

I beat GoW when it originally came out ages ago, I think I ended up completing Hardcore mode and the first act in insane, then moved on to a different game. I would play with you if I felt like dropping 300+ on an xbox one.
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Thought about sending a bill for it, but somehow i think that wouldn't be appreciated. (using her hourly rate ofc, since it's her work and i'm pretty sure she makes more money then me)

You know you feel like it. :rolleyes:
 
My son plays on 360, so I would play there as well. Don't think you can currently cross over systems.

I watched the first few minuets of that video and it looks very interesting. I plan to watch it later.
 
So Cyrax complains when he doesn't have work and then complains when he does. Got it. ;)

If I ever said "not my job" to my supervisor... *shudders*
 
kestegs said:
My son plays on 360, so I would play there as well. Don't think you can currently cross over systems.

I watched the first few minuets of that video and it looks very interesting. I plan to watch it later.
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Cross platform between the xbox1 and the computer is supposively going to be a thing, eventually. Otherwise no.

I could kill your son! On the Xbox 360 of course.
 
Pyrotechnician said:
Cross platform between the xbox1 and the computer is supposively going to be a thing, eventually. Otherwise no.

I could kill your son! On the Xbox 360 of course.
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Yes, that was true about the xbox 360 as well. They surely did a whole lot with it... See "Shadowrun."

There is no excuse for cross platform other than no one wants to pay for it.
 
Goldtru said:
So Cyrax complains when he doesn't have work and then complains when he does. Got it. ;)

If I ever said "not my job" to my supervisor... *shudders*
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Only complaining because when people don't wanna do the work or got some kind of lousy thing they don't wanna do then "we're a team". And whenever i ask them to do something it's "but that's your job". Suddenly we're not a team anymore. Totally hypocritical. If it were give and take i wouldn't mind doing it.

Also here's something for you.

Pyrotechnician said:
I could kill your son! On the Xbox 360 of course.
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Why stop at his son? You could kill kestegs too! :D
 
I've finally got MrsNix home eight days after her operation. Her hearing is shattered, but the doctors think there is enough left for a hearing aid to give her back some reasonably normal hearing. According to the doctor they got 80% of the tumour and empties the cyst.
 
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