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You put all the Elder Scrolls games in front of me and I'm tossing Oblivion into a dumpster and popping Morrowind in to play.
This is the way.
You put all the Elder Scrolls games in front of me and I'm tossing Oblivion into a dumpster and popping Morrowind in to play.
Board games: My daughter really likes the board games I like, too. Do you remember Talisman board game? The original (Link to wiki)? 8 years ago I managed to buy one on ebay for 12 Euros in perfect, unplayeyd condition. It is a slog to play, but so much fun (if you like dying)! Also, we tried RoboRally, which seems a good way to train spatial perception. I have to take care not to frustrate her though...(see story above...could happen anytime she gets frustrated in a game).
If you can keep your cool at all times with your own kids you need to be a robot of some kind. Also: 10.30 p.m is also not the best of times to have a good discussion, not for you and not for your daughter.RL: Warning: much whining about the ordeals of parentship following.
TL;DR: Big argument with my daughter, still feeling bad about it.So my older daughter turned 9 years on Christmas. She already shows signs of puberty - not only from a medical point of view, but also in mood swings and character. She also is very headstrong in general...so yesterday evening, we had a conflict which can only be described as a clash of wills (yes, I am stubborn, too - where do you think she got it from? ;-) It started with a trifle: she wanted to sleep next to my wife and her sister, so I offered her grudgingly she could do that while I slept in her room. It was already 10 p.m. by that time, because I read to her for one hour before going to bed because...well, we both like reading together (a fantasy novel from a German fantasy author - for those who are interested in it: "Die Bedrohung" from Wolfgang and Heike Hohlbein).
But then she went to bed, waking up both my wife and her younger sister in the process, taking the audiobook the younger one listened to while falling asleep and wanted me to change the audiobook against her younger sister's will which I denied her, because it was her sister's turn to choose...and besides, she had woken her sister up again (it was 10.30 p.m. in the meantime). This resulted in an escalation and shouting match where I told her I wouldn't tolerate her selfishness while she argued, that she needed to change the audiobook or she would get nightmares (it wasn't anything frightening - Bibi and Tina). Now you have to know, that my daughter is battling Tics and mild OCD for over a year now and started arguing, that her OCD required her to change the audiobook and if I didn't let her change it, I was mean, not understanding and not loving etc. I told her that this isn't the case and doubted, that it was the OCD requiring it, also explaining, that if it was OCD, we shouldn't give in to it. But I had the hunch, that she simply wanted to get her way (which she does a lot in the last few months). So things escalated even more, ending in my daughter trying to sleep on the floor of the bathroom and yelling that she only wanted to die.
That resulted in me shouting back that we have to consult one of my colleagues then and that I've had it up to here (I am a child and adolescent psychiatrist, for those who wonder - yeah, you can see my savvy from reading about my cool reactions to my daughter's outburst ).
Although I perfectly knew, that she didn't do it intentionally and that her regulation of emotion is not as refined as an adult's, I couldn't for the world of it give in and end the argument on amicable terms. My wife managed to calm her and get her to sleep while I cooled down with reading/watching stream.
Today she is back to everything's ok while I still have an emotional and physical hangover and really don't know how to cope right now. It's so paradoxical, that from a theoretical point of view, I know exactly what is going on and I know exactly what I would recommend a parent in that case - but I seem unable to do it myself.
So today I went for a walk for 3 hours in the sun and tried not to do anyhing frustrating (Spoiler: Didn't succeed) and now I will probably go to snuggle up to my daughter and read the book mentioned above to her to get on common ground again. Cross your fingers it works!
D2: Well, managed to get my Orange Barb to the Black Marsh, but my system crashed while D2 was running in the background and now I don't know what part of the map I already had cleared and which parts I hadn't cleared...I will try to compromise.
OVG: Magic Online was the reason my system crashed. Look, I really love Magic and I especially love the Vintage Cube (3 Trophies so far in 12 drafts or so - yay me! ), but the game keeps crashing and crashing. Seriously? Can't they fix this? It's like 20 game crashes in 10 dayys, 2 of them leading to serious system crashes. My laptop is not state of the art, but it is quite solid and neither Witcher I or II nor Divinity II Original Sin ever crashed my system...MTGO's code is probably shambles -the interface is still based on the game Shandalar, a 1997 game (Link to wiki). But they tried to integrate some new aspects from MTGA (Magic Arena) and apparently those different codes don't work so well together...so much for the "no frustration today" part...I lost a match due to the game crashes, which resulted in a loss due to me timing out...asked for a reimbursement, usually they are generous with those, but I already got one for the last time my system crashed due to game errors.
Board games: My daughter really likes the board games I like, too. Do you remember Talisman board game? The original (Link to wiki)? 8 years ago I managed to buy one on ebay for 12 Euros in perfect, unplayeyd condition. It is a slog to play, but so much fun (if you like dying)! Also, we tried RoboRally, which seems a good way to train spatial perception. I have to take care not to frustrate her though...(see story above...could happen anytime she gets frustrated in a game).