OT: Days of our Lives aka the Beacon's Billboard

[Milamber]

I don't agree that presents are a whole part of it.

A phone call when you miss them, just telling them you love them, damn sitting down and watching a show you don't like but they do is enough.

I don't know one girl who would treasure a gift more than the time their partner gives to them.

Men have a tendency to still be one of the bhoys in a relationship, but then want/expect the novelties of the relationship when they want them at a particular time.

Gifts are only a minute matter to the overall picture.

 

[Rizzo]

I agree mil, that's why I also do all this you talk about. But besides that, presents are still a nice addition. No?

 

[corax1]

I don't agree that presents are a whole part of it.

A phone call when you miss them, just telling them you love them, damn sitting down and watching a show you don't like but they do is enough.

I don't know one girl who would treasure a gift more than the time their partner gives to them.

Men have a tendency to still be one of the bhoys in a relationship, but then want/expect the novelties of the relationship when they want them at a particular time.

Gifts are only a minute matter to the overall picture.

damn straight mil! but you have to admit its easier to remember and get presents for special dates than to face their wrath afterwrads. especially is miranda still does her flying elbow?

:lol: pwnt

 

[Rizzo]

My problem

I wanna talk a bit about something that is bothering me, and have been bothering me subconsiously over a very long period of time.

I have a bit of a problem, and if my gf and I ever split, it will probably be because of that. This problem have already caused me much grief, as this is why my last gf left me. In short words it's an inability to display negative emotions in an "orderly" fashion. I don't like showing that I'm angry at something. For instance, I hate when my girlfriend watches those stupid reality shows when we are together, but I'm having a hard time expressing this anger in a fashion that will make her understand. Usually when I'm mad I just walk away... not very constructive eh?

Yesterday I had a bit of a clash with my girl. She had been sad all day, and finally she told me that it was because of this. I don't "fight back". I don't stand up for myself. It's like this in every aspect of my life actually. I give in instead of fighting back, and I *have* to change that, because I really really want to be with her, and because it's devastating for my person that I don't fight for myself.

I hope you understand the seriousness in the situation, because this might eventually lead to the break between me and my girl... and I don't want that!!! How does a man change? How do I change myself to better display my true emotions, even when negative?

Thank you

 

[MCCCXXXVII]

When displaying negative emotions, it's important to not get carried away. Be constructive and express your opinion, but don't go too far and say things you can't take back. I can be hard to critisise something someone you like (love? ) is doing, though, 'cause you don't want them to be angry with you. If it's really important, though, you should just say something about it.

Wow, that might well be the most emotionfull thing I've said in months....

Anyway, I now have 5 raven frosts, which seems pretty damn weird, seeing yesterday I only had one!

 

[corax1]

burn it, burn it all to hell
signed
the leprechaun

hmmm that is a dilly of a pickle...been watching far too much simpsons.
next time she does something you dont like...punch her...im serious.. do it.
ok dont acually hit her or she'll lay the beat down on you.
just next time you feel yourself getting angry/ annoyed with something.. punch her..nah just don't let yourself walk away. you dont even have to say "im getting angry can i punch you" just say things like " this shows boring, wanna snuggle or let me punch you"

i have a thing with the punching tonight. awww rusty my new 3 month old kitten is asleep on my lap. and im wearing satin boxers so he keeps sliding off. so now hes cradled in my arm so im left hand net surfing. damn j00!

 

[Rizzo]

i have a thing with the punching tonight. awww rusty my new 3 month old kitten is asleep on my lap. and im wearing satin boxers so he keeps sliding off. so now hes cradled in my arm so im left hand net surfing. damn j00!

Aww that's sweet I love kittens
(satin boxers??! What are you? )

 

[DougTheHead2]

Well, Rizzo, it sounds like you are afraid. It also sounds like you have no reason to be. Next time something is bothering you, just up and say it; that sounds like what she wants, and that she is the kind of girl that will listen and try to make you happy.

You can change by treating her less like a girlfriend and more like family. See, family can fight, but they are still family. You know, that in the end and always as background, there is a foundation of love. As a girlfriend, she is to be pandered to endlessly, and never shown that you have a hint of unlikable qualities. However, you two have gotten to the point where she knows how good you are, and wants to see the rest of you, the part that stays hidden because you control it so well. Time to let loose, and let her see the all of who you are. No more eggshells.

 

[Rizzo]

Thank you Doug for your response (you see, I told you not to stop in here ). I really appreciate your thoughts, and I know how true your words are. I am afraid. I know that, just not why, but I have a nag of always wanting to know why instead of trying to get over it. I will try my best to honor your words and talk and act in a way similar to my thoughts when next I'm with her. I wanna try it out... I hope she doesn't get scared haha :scared:

Tomorrow evening I'll see her again, so I will respond to how it went sometime wednesday or thursday.

 

[Kaysaar]

Well Rizzo, by just walking away, I have a sneaking suspicion that it makes her feel like she's part of the problem. I know that when I'm angry at certain people, I disappear, unless it's something that just requires confrontation. I think that when you're with her, and something irritates her, just tell her. This will get you "sensative points" too .

My girl and I don't necessarily like the same TV either, so we compromise. I love Who's Line is it Anyway, but she can't stand it for more then one episode. So when it comes on, we sometimes watch one episode then we go find something else that we both like. Sometimes we miss shows that we like, but we can usually find something that we both agree on.

A pay attention to what Doug just said. His speaks wise words.

 

[roninDOG]

@all - I hope you had as great a Thanksgiving weekend as I had! Im sorry I was away for so long Rizzo, Coraz, grogs (4 days) :lol: . Nice to see that while Im away you managed to generate 4 pages of posts for me to read as well, damn near too me half the morning to get it all in between work. I am here now and will post my comments. Glad to see your all doing reasonably well. I hope you have a great day too.

@Milamber, Sidhe, HBeachBabe, 1337 in Roman numerals, Chaos, frost, Elhennin - all nice to see you here, this thread has been typically limited to us regulars but its good to see a change of pace. Hope to see you more often!

-roninDOG

 

[roninDOG]

@ DougTheHead2 - I am sorry to hear about all the trouble that was caused with the runes. I just wanted to tell you that in my eyes your reputation at the SPF is not tarnished one bit. For those in the thread reading this, you might not recall but DTH2 was there at the birth of the OT days of our lives thread, and was very influential in its creation. He participated in the orignal spamming of the daily that lead to this thread and also spoke with AE about making it. Im glad that we had his support. I hope that you decide to stick around because I for one (and it seems like many of the others here agree) enjoy your presence at the SPF. As for your buddy, well maybe he just wanted to give you a present, and he knew that you wouldnt take it any other way. I doubt there is any sinister portion of it, only a friend wanting to make another friend happy. Chaos hit the nail on the head...its only a game, friendship is real and can last forever. Good luck at the SPF, in this thread you are ALWAYS welcome to come and relax your nerves.

-roninDOG

 

[roninDOG]

@ corax - Glad to hear that your gf and you are ok with everything and that you asserted that you will not be taken advantage of again. Did she possibly give a real reason as to why she was acting the way she was? As for your questions about martial arts: Im afraid I have no real experience with any of them although I do have some background on Aikido and Ninjitsu. Aikido deals with martial arts that is DEFENSIVE in nature and aims to control its opponents by manipulating thier movements towards your advantage. Its a thinking martial art and is not very aggressive. It takes time and dedication before it becomes useful. Ninjitsu is the art of the Japanese Ninja. It ivolves all sorts of things from hand to hand combat, figthing with ninjato's (sp?) (straight edge samurai sword, slightly smaller than a katana), moving silenty, bow and arrows, and a whole bunch more. Takes a lot of practice and skill but people I have seen are amazing when they get good at this stuff. The rest on your list are subdivisions of karate IIRC and I dont know much about thier particular philosphy. Hope this helped. And why are you wearing satin boxers? :lol:

One more thing....thanks for handling that giveaway...you made it better than I ever could have. I appreciate your effort.

-roninDOG

 

[DougTheHead2]

I was speaking with Bolinbrooke (the guy who outed the last non-legit PlasticRage420) about some of the tc87s my friend said he got off Baal (remember, I had his stash). I got a PM back today saying that it was a common item pack, and that it also has a full set of runes that say "Expansion" on it.

Sigh... So I am sure he has lied, and is relying on his past behavior to skid by this one. Well, I'ma let him. Its definitely just a game. We just started two new chars, as our last 2 pat'ed, and we have my Wind Druid and his Wolfman&sons. We'll still enjoy the game, but I sure as hell am not picking up anything for my grail with him in the game! Anyway, I am sticking around, I have no desire to leave.



@RizzoLOL, a good first baby step, rizzo, is to just let a big, um what you call them?, ah yes, fart. I know my wife said that I was never disgusting until she married me. Well, better get them used to it!

 

[roninDOG]

@ Rizzo - Im here M8! No worries Im back to posting, I usually only frequent the SPF while Im at work on my breaks so I dont usually check in on weekends and Thanksgiving was an extra long one. As for your gift giving....Bravo...most of us are limited to like 3, at least me anyways. I try to go BIGGER, ie more money per gift, so I dont have to look around as much. :lol:

WTR your situation...I used to be like you quite abit when it came to anger and emotion....how do you force yourself to change? You force yourself to change. You need to realize that a real relationship that will last is based on communication between both parties. Without this your relationship WILL NOT last. While you may think that you have been together for along time, 1.5 years IIRC, that really isnt a long time. During that time it sounds like you have been sort of keeping up a "perfect image" of yourself. DTH2 had the right idea. Its easy to always be happy go lucky, and then walk away when things get touchy. I think your fear comes from you not wanting your gf to see that side of you...fear that she will see what your like when you are not all romantic and happy go lucky....fear that she will not like what she sees and that she will leave you if she doesnt like it. Thing is...if she doesnt like it then both of you need to move on...and perhaps your afraid that this could be the case. In a relalationship both parties need to show who they are...at face value. Hiding things will only make it worse in the long run. Your gf sounds great, and Im sure shell appreciate it when you start to express your "taboo" emotions her. Next time the opportunity comes, remember that if your actions continue..your relationship will suffer because of it and Im sure you will do what you need to. Good luck M8, best wishes. Im sure your gf will appreciate the effort.

-roninDOG

 

[Rizzo]

@RizzoLOL, a good first baby step, rizzo, is to just let a big, um what you call them?, ah yes, fart. I know my wife said that I was never disgusting until she married me. Well, better get them used to it!

It has nothing to do with that Doug. I can be totally my self in every aspect of me, with the sole exception of telling about my negative feelings towards her. Believe me, I've fartet a million times with her haha :lol:

 

[Reborn2k]

Believe me, I've fartet a million times with her haha :lol:

ROFL. LOL! :teeth:

Er, my first post here. Today I applied for an industrial training and surprisingly got to know that my friend has called that firm, too. I had called it first some time ago, so I had the rights for the training, but luckily he wasn't angry or something!

Have a nice day!

 

[roninDOG]

@grogs - I would definately agree with you about the standard 9-5....whew...work in excess. Good luck with the hunt for Griz's set, its a doosy to find. Thanks for the Thanksgiving wishes, I had a GREAT weekend...even though I got a little sick I still had a wonderful time. I hope the same for you...how did introducing Rebecca (IIRC) to your folks?

@Kaaysar - Hope your exams went well.

@oapwm - Hey buddy, lost my lvl 60 hc paladin the other day so I had to restart him. Hopefully will have some progress on new sin by this weekend, let me know if youve the time to MP. BTW I hope your thanks giving went well and you and your family arrived, and returned safely.

-roninDOG

 

[Kaysaar]

@Kaaysar - Hope your exams went well.

No exams yet... those start friday :bonk:
Exams the 3rd, 8th, 9th, and 13th
Essays due the 3rd, and between the 9th-11th.

First two exams are probably going to be the hardest. Arabic because it's Arabic, and Psych because their tests are just brutal.

Huzzah! :xeek:

Welcome to the thread Reborn! :howdy:

There's a lot of good lady advice in here, we should publish the SPF book of Love.

 

[corax1]

And why are you wearing satin boxers? :lol:

One more thing....thanks for handling that giveaway...you made it better than I ever could have. I appreciate your effort.

satin boxers are cool. they are like my pyjama's.
Ive got to get the giveaway running again but im thinking of going with a different format because atm its taking along time for the q's and what not.


@kaysaar goodluck with your exams mate. and might i just say PSYCH!!!!

*runs away*