It's not so much that I don't want to have kids, the problem is that I already have one. To cut a long story short he's now 8 and lives with his mother about 3000km from here. I was very young and very stupid at the time and the whole experience has put me off somewhat. I haven't seen him in ~6 years and only talked to him on rare occasions, the only way he'd now know I existed is from the cheque that I send his mother every month. I'm now content to wait for the day that he comes looking for me and we'll sort it out from there...... I tell you my life has been a roller coaster since leaving home..... It has been a financial drain having one - though I don't get the 'benefits' of being around, I'm just wondering what it'll be like with more.piscene said:First of all, congrats on your future marriedness. I don't think it matters financially when you have kids. It's one of those things that you're never really ready for, you just do it. If you actually don't want to have kids, you better face the facts now and get it out in the open before you get married. Better to not wait to face that one.
On the other hand, if you're just hesitant because its scary to have a little human being who is totally and completely dependant on you for their very survival, not to mention that you are responsible for ensuring that this person grows up to be a positively contributing member of society and a happy, well balanced person...well, you should be a little freaked out by that, it's a lot of responsibility.
I've got some issues to work through and Bec is very supportive, we'll talk some more and eventually it'll happen. In all honesty I look forward to raising kids.
-Grogs