OT: Days of our Lives aka the Beacon's Billboard

Are you saying that the voices in my head and the voices in my wifes head are relating your past to us, if so. Add some shrinks to the slew of doctory persons your seeing.
 
Obviously not Kamap, that would be crazy. No no. I'm saying that the voices in your head are me, triggered by the voices in your wife's head which are only present due to a vague experiment that I conducted with your great, great, great grandfather aboard The International Space Station in 1749 during the height of the Roman Empire. We almost caused the dinosaurs to go extinct, it was hilarious. On the plus side, your wife was reborn (again) and I developed my fifth and sixth bum cheeks.

Also, there are no shrinks left in my area :/
 
I am stressing out like ****. As I mentioned in the daily thread, my first exam went fantastically and my second one went not quite so well... The longer this goes on the worse I am feeling, its just always on my mind niggling away at me. I mean its unlikely (but not impossible), but if I was to do so bad as to fail, that is me screwed. Resits exclude you from PhDs, essentially, no matter how much of an anomaly it might be.

Its Christmas for Christ sake and I can't relax at all. I mean, I wasn't sleeping great before but now I'm REALLY not sleeping. Even my appetite is struggling at the moment, and I have a serious appetite. Thing is, when family etc ask me how it went I can't even tell them the truth because I have so much expectation on my shoulders because normally I top every class and getting my Summer research etc, that everybody seems to have forgotten that I can **** things up in the right circumstances. There is so much expected of me now (I can't even approach my lecturers because they just expect me to ace it) that the whole idea that this one exam might screw up my entire career path is just eating away at me.

I keep remembering things that I think I might have missed in my essays. Did I? Didn't I? I definitely didn't... Wait, did I actually? Fark!
 
If people expect you to ace everything, because you did so in the past, it tells a lot about them, not about you. Nobody is perfect, nobody performs 100% all the time. So try to get things back to perspective. Your first exam was really good, your second, while not so good, wasn't bad either. You have the capabilities to do well, if you keep working for it you will do well. Will it be perfect, or even as good as people come to expect? Maybe, maybe not. But even if the latter is the case, chances are really high that it will still be good, or at the very least good enough. No need for your self-confidence to go all down the drain because one exam went a little less good than you would have wanted to.

It's a shame you can't do your running like you are use to (I assume you still can't), because that would be great to get your mind free from all those thoughts. Try to find something else that relaxes you, that cleans up your thoughts. After that, carry on working for it again. If the high stress levels come back, read this again, go out and relax again, and get to work again. Rinse and repeat :).

I know this is easier said than done. But I hope it helps, if only just a little bit.
 
Wise words. Its not my confidence so much, as I still believe in my ability. Its more the idea that if I have to resit, I could be cut from PhDs. Unfortunately I still can't run :( I cancelled my gym membership again yesterday because I wasn't even doing that. I am developing new hobbies though (more tabletop/card gaming) and comics books, so I guess I'm replacing it.


Are you better no after your race?
 
Yes. Didn't run for a week because musles were too stiff until Thursday. But did a relaxed 16K on Sunday, which went really well. This evening I'll put on my light and go out in the dark for a relaxed 11K or so. It's freezing at the moment, so that should be beautiful.
 
T72on1 said:
If people expect you to ace everything, because you did so in the past, it tells a lot about them, not about you. Nobody is perfect, nobody performs 100% all the time. So try to get things back to perspective. Your first exam was really good, your second, while not so good, wasn't bad either. You have the capabilities to do well, if you keep working for it you will do well. Will it be perfect, or even as good as people come to expect? Maybe, maybe not. But even if the latter is the case, chances are really high that it will still be good, or at the very least good enough. No need for your self-confidence to go all down the drain because one exam went a little less good than you would have wanted to.

It's a shame you can't do your running like you are use to (I assume you still can't), because that would be great to get your mind free from all those thoughts. Try to find something else that relaxes you, that cleans up your thoughts. After that, carry on working for it again. If the high stress levels come back, read this again, go out and relax again, and get to work again. Rinse and repeat :).

I know this is easier said than done. But I hope it helps, if only just a little bit.
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Thank you for typing this out. It's good advice in general and I especially like the bit at the end where you say that if the stress comes back, trying to relax again is possible and could still help. Endless cycles of hopeless stress are no fun at all.
 
If you keep thinking about it, it will keep gnawing at you. Is there something else that you can do that takes your mind off the exam?

Wow, I was searching for this board.

Basically blind dating a girl for the first time Friday afternoon/night for the next 4 days. I know a ton about her and she knows a ton about me. We've never actually seen each other except once about 3 years back. Any advice for what to do first time meeting her in person?
 
djmbbandie said:
If you keep thinking about it, it will keep gnawing at you. Is there something else that you can do that takes your mind off the exam?

Wow, I was searching for this board.

Basically blind dating a girl for the first time Friday afternoon/night for the next 4 days. I know a ton about her and she knows a ton about me. We've never actually seen each other except once about 3 years back. Any advice for what to do first time meeting her in person?
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Be kind, don't expect too much, don't ask too much, just have fun!
 
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