OT: Days of our Lives aka the Beacon's Billboard

oh dont get me wrong. the day meant alot to her....she ''forgot''. that actually made me chuckle. which generally isnt a good sign. i dont get really mad. like atm im not mad as such, theres no smoke coming out of my ears, more resigned. and i laugh an awful lot. but ive been told its a scary laugh.
so yea.... wish i had some :drink:
 
Man, i have far too much beer. I put it in the freezer to cool it quickly and left it there overnight :(

So i have 7 bottles of stella which need to be drunk now.....and lectures :(

Damn.
 
Corax, I don't get really mad either, but that's not always a positive thing. It's good that you don't lose your temper and go rampaging, but this is serious dude.. at least I rate it as serious, and I think a bit of yelling or big-words-talking could be necessary, or at least called for. She cannot "forget" a thing like this if she really loves you is my idea. A day like that is something to look forward to, to anticipate with warm feelings, and if she doesn't do that, something's wrong. She could be right though, and just forgot, but after two years of relationship she should've learned to respect your feelings too, and know that something like this hurts. I would talk to her, but let her know your true feelings about this. Those feelings you have deep down beneath the surface and don't share with anyone else...
Saying that you'd like some beer only tells me that you indeed have these feelings, but you have to share them with her, and she must tell you how she could "forget". To get over this positively she must come with a better explanation than that.
 
well im over that. sitting here talking about it wont solve nothing. so back down it goes*repressing........bing* ah done. :drink:


another good note. im getting a bearded dragon and hopefully a python. but probably not until after we move. i need to get a license first. and if i get it now ill have to get another one halfway thru next yr. which is sort of a waste. but we shall see
 
corax said:
well im over that. sitting here talking about it wont solve nothing. so back down it goes*repressing........bing* ah done.

:rolleyes:
Talking about it here won't solve anything, correct. Talking about it with your gf will... :)
 
Corax:
A girl doesn't forget anniversaries and other likewise important stuff... According to us girls, "forgetting" is what guys do and we are usually the ones grumbling about it.
For the rest i join Rizzo in saying that, yes, you should talk to her.
 
Hi Sidhe, haven't seen you here before. Welcome to my rant box :wave:

Listen to her Corax. It is imperative that you talk to her. This is not a small issue. Tell him Ronin... (where are you?)
 
@Solo - I know exactly what you mean M8....and I know thats its extremely difficult to convey what you are trying to say. For the record how old are you? This could really determine the course of your actions here because the older you are the worse the consequences of your actions. Get this, I am 23, I work in corporate America in the office environment, but my "own" image of myself is this: shaved head, tattooed body - arms, chest, & back, dressed like a plain old tough punk rock peckerwood. Every day I have to put on my "nice" face and look, and head into work and I really dont feel all too comfortable until I get home and put on my A neck, or tight white T shirt and a pair of jeans. And I do have the tattoos ...all over....and a shaved head. My wife loves them. The things Im trying to get at are this....the older you are the less of the person you really get to be in public (esp the workplace) if you want to fit into normal society. When I get home and when Im out and about I am EXACTLY the person I would like to be. It will most likely be the same with you. Your going to have to get a job someday and present yourself in a totally different perspective. But the rest of the time should be yours to do what you choose regardless of what the general public thinks. As for your family I think since they have probably given alot to you, you should limit yourself around them as well...they dont really like my tatoos so I cover them up out of respect. As for your girl....she should love you for who you are and love involves changing together. If she cant handle it (I mean its not like youve become a switch hitter or anything serious to the relationship like that) then shes probably not right for you. In any situation where she is upset about it, its probably because she will be embarrassed or worried about how you come off it people....which shouldnt be the case in a good relationship. Be who you want to be, and the younger you are the more this should ring true.... you should do your changing early because the older you are the less you will be able to change. I hope this helps....no one can ALWAYS be who they want to be...its about finding the right time and place to express yourself. The change should definately happen otherwise you will regret missing out on being yourself in the future.

-roninDOG
 
@Corax - Oi, I have some bad news for you m8. From reading about the situation, I honestly think that this relationship is heading towards a break up. For all those that made comments....the reason why she ditched her BF on thier 2 yr anniversary is because she wanted too. We all know she didnt "forget" because any sane person wouldnt forget that day esp when they talked about it for months and the two days right before. The thing is she 16 years old (most people are not good at serious relationships at that age) and for whatever reason she is wanting to move on....or she is punishing you for something you did (you may not even know what it is). Since you havent told us anything did you do something to piss her off? If you didnt then its probably the former of the two...and she has lost her feelings for your. If you really think about it, you would never miss that day unless you didnt care. Im sure the SPFers here would agree with that. If I were you I wouldnt do anything in particular. Things arent looking good and this is a SERIOUS matter to your relationship. If you talk to her per Rizzo's suggestion Im predicting that she will be annoyed...I dont think she was too busy to talk to you the two times you rang her before. If you give her some space I dont even think she will notice because she wants space. The choice is your m8. Good luck. Were all here for you.

-roninDOG
 
@Rizzo - Glad to see your well and back on track here. Good suggestions for corax, although I fear that talking will make things worse...not like repressing will make anything better though. I suppose with talking at least there will be closure....You and your lady are well I hope?

@oapwm - NICE gaming last friday....I had a great time...its too bad I got careless and died!! AHHHH... I was so frustrated. We fought big D way too early ... @ lvl 22 which in HC is too low in my opinion. We should have done some RoF and Chaos Sanc runs to lvl up. Ah well Ill try and build up a char to your lvl to continue. This saturday you free perhaps...thursday and friday Ill be celebrating thanksgiving with my family.

@grogs - what input you have for corax on this one?

@silo - what you studying in Uni again?

@ sidhe - hello, and welcome to our little corner of the SPF. hope you enjoy your stay...its possible you wont be able to leave.

-roninDOG
 
I agree with Ronin. But remember that she is "only" 16, which could have a say in this matter, and punishing you for something you did could indeed be an issue. However, talking about it imho never hurts, and though she might not initially want too, you have to, in order to find out what's going on (EDIT: if you want to of course). Maybe this is the end of the relationship... I hope not for your sake mate :( But the only way to save it is to talk to her (I think).

Ronin: yess we are well and great :thumbsup: ... as always :)
Btw, I don't think my gf will be able to take the day off needed for us to go to london this christmas. Sad, but we go to Copenhagen instead (capitol of Denmark). Instead we'll take a spring trip to Paris in March or April :D
 
Corax - I'm not going to add anything because I'm betting you already know what I was going to say :creep:

But I agree largely with what Ronin has to say on this

Just remember that your SPF buddies are here for you :buddies:

Rizzo - I wish I had your luck to be able to travel to cool places in Europe without it being a huge ordeal. So lucky :thumbsup:

Sidhe - Welcome to Rizzo's Rant Boxâ„¢!

My turn now. My mom effectively scared me half to death last night when she asked me if I knew a certain person. Needless to say, this person is a good friend of mine who I graduated with, and who also played on the Ultimate Frisbee team with me.

She told me that he was just operated on for a brain tumor. And that's it. That's all I know. I have no idea how serious this is, I have no idea what the initial problem was. I don't even know if he had the surgery out west, or if he returned to the east coast for it. I feel completely left in the dark because I have no idea what's going on with my friend. What' worse, is that I have no idea how to get in contact, save e-mail, which I imagine he won't be using for a while. It's driving me nuts! :rant:
 
Ronin, im studying software engineering. Although the way its going at the moment, you would think that its advanced maths and maths combines :( Just spent 3 hrs just doing maths.

@Kaysaar - Thats pretty harsh. Looks like you might just have to wait it out for more info :(

@ Everyone - Wish me luck tonight - Novice rowers vs Senior rowers on the rowing machines. Im going to try my best, dont reckon im going to beat anyone, but pray i dont get any injuries. Its that last 200m when i push my body far too hard and ignore cramp etc.
 
@silo - half of software engineering / cs is math...boolean algebra, linear algebra, logic and set theory, advanced calculus, algorithim analysis will be classes that you will have to take throughout college. :) Cheers!

-roninDOG
 
Kaysaar said:
That's all I know. I have no idea how serious this is, I have no idea what the initial problem was. I don't even know if he had the surgery out west, or if he returned to the east coast for it. I feel completely left in the dark because I have no idea what's going on with my friend. What' worse, is that I have no idea how to get in contact, save e-mail, which I imagine he won't be using for a while. It's driving me nuts! :rant:

Kaysaar - I feel for you. Having gone through something similar I can imagine how you'd be feeling. All I can say is hang in there, not knowing can be frustrating. Do you know his parents? I'd start calling around mutual friends, see what they know and try to establish some facts. It's easy to go off with half the information and think the sky is falling. I can't say anything that'll make you feel any better, I hope that things work out for your friend.

-Grogs
 
@Ronin - That was some golden advice given to Solo. I agree 100%. I think we are alike.... I have tattoos and shaved my head for a good many years. It's only pretty recently that I have made the leap into conservatism.

In my professional life I've always covered my tattoos, I've made sure that if I felt the need to get another one it'd be in a place that I could hide it.

Working in the corporate world is about conforming, sounds terrible to say, but it's true. Your superiors will more often than not be intrenched in the 'old school', and therefore be conservative. You can be different in your views, and this is encouraged, but a standard of appearance will be expected.

This is not my personal opinion, I'm at a stage now where I do the hiring, I look for individuality, sure, but there is a line.

The problem is that if you are in a position of accountability you look for people that are capable of working under that accountability, who better to do that than colnes of you! This is why companies spout on about their individual culture ~ it's made that way because recruitment is so subjective, you like and form relationships with people because you have similar backgrounds, interests, aspirations and passions. If a group of individuals have similar views, then a culture is born.

Ronin, your insight was spot on ~ be an individual at home, conform at work. That is, unless you're fond of mediocrity in the corporate world.

-Grogs
 
Lastly, before I tidy my office and prepare for a visit from my companies managing director! ARGHHHHHH.......

@Corax: - Tough situation..... It seems strange to me that you spoke to your gf about the anniversary, made plans and then she forgot???

Side, hit the nail on the head. Women don't usually forget these things, they choose to.

I feel that she is trying to tell you something, though not knowing you or your relationship makes it difficult to comment in any way except generally.

In my experience it has always been easier to end a relationship by forcing the other person to do so... this can be achieved in many ways, and your situation seems to be an indicator of this.

Looking at it from her side, it must be difficult for her to know that in all liklihood you'll be moving away next year and the pressure that that bears on a relationship is hard to take (especially at 17). She's invested 2 years in you, and I'm sure she loves you, however she may be trying to 'let go', and this is her way of doing it.

At 16 I would have jumped up and down, yelled at her then called it quits.

At 28 I'd talk to her ask her what her issues are and work through them.

Tough situation, I don't envy you.....

-Grogs
 
@kaysaar: sorry to hear that mate. like someone else said contacting mutual friends would probably be the best bet to finding anything out. or asking your mum where she heard that he went in.

well the gf is out shoe shopping today for formal shoes and tomorow shes off getting her hair and what have you done. so the first real chance ill have to speak to her will be actually at the formal. but i dont think ill be doing that, i dont want to ruin the night for her. although it'd be some mighty fine revenge :grrr: especially when she decided shes going to a friends after-party instead of spending the night with me like we planned. at least she told me this time. so i think this relationship is well and truly screwed.
hmmm what else. job interview in just over 2 hours. so hopefully that all goes well. and also i went 4wd'ing this morning and it was hell of alot of fun. because it was still semi-wet in the low lying bits. heh. heheheh.*runs off* :howdy:
 
corax said:
so i think this relationship is well and truly screwed.

As a very optimistic person, it's sad to read that. I think before you give up all hope (like everyone else has already said) talk to her.

But I agree with what Grogs said. This could be a defense mechanism regarding the pain she thinks is coming.

Either way, good luck with the job interview! :thumbsup:
 
hi everybody :wave:
got back from my interview a few hours ago and i think it went superbly. although the interview lady didnt know i was coming, she didnt organise them. so it was a bit confusing. but it went well. except then i had to buy dinner and cook it...then do the dishes. oh god the pain. and i forgot to buy the cat food. so he was getting vocal about that. so i had to ride back down and get some.

more good news. sometime soon, friday hopefully, we are going to the animal shelter and getting a new kitten :uhhuh: yay!!!!!!!!! :surprise:
 

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